Help! My work hours have been cut
You think: Blast, they don’t appreciate me! I need the money.I feel used. Where’s the company’s loyalty? Why me?
You transform the frustration with helpful thoughts, such as: Well, at least I still have a job. (And I like it!) The work thing isn’t personal, it’s just business. And now I’ve got more time to do all the other things I want to do.
My mum’s got cancer
You think: Why my mum? What if she dies? She’s so young. I love her so much. What’s going to happen to our family?
You transform the anxiety with these more helpful thoughts: medical infrastructure for treating this disease is constantly evolving. We’re not alone: cancer affects many people. This is an opportunity for me to show mum how much I love her – and to show her my love and support.
My partner and i broke up after a long relationship
You think: I just can’t stand the pain. Will I ever recover? I feel so alone. I love him so much; this is absolutely terrifying! How can he possibly reject me like this? I feel like such a loser! I don’t think I will ever get over this.
You turn it around by thinking: I don’t deserve this: I’ll focus on myself, and in time I’ll find someone who is a better match. And thank goodness for my friends, they are gold at times like this!
My in-laws are a financial drain
You think: Why am I supporting them? I need that income for my family. To make things worse, they don’t seem to appreciate what I’m doing for them.
You transform your frustration by thinking instead: I can’t change them or the situation, so I accept it. It’s the way it is. If I spend less time around my in-laws, I will feel less frustrated. And I may not be rich financially, but I am rich in family, friends and love.
|fjanine on 06 January 2013 ,12:09 |
This article is so relevant to me. Thanks RD, I'm now less-pessimistic.
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