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How to be happier

How to be happier
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No one can be happy-go-lucky 100 per cent of the time. But some people maintain a gloomy state too much of the time. Even though it’s challenging to be positive you can set yourself up for more joy with these tips in mind.

Set your mind on being happy

Set your mind on being happy
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Being happy is not about what you have or what happens to you, but how you react to it. “Happiness is definitely a choice,” says professional coach, Caroline Adams Miller. “Research on identical and fraternal twins separated at birth, among other studies, shows that at least half of our well-being is directly tied to what we choose to think about and do on a daily basis.” Another study, the Cornell Legacy Project, surveyed ‘wise elders’ to find out their life lessons, one of which was that waiting to become happy doesn’t work. Instead, greeting each day with a good attitude puts us in control of our own positive mindset.

Read on for the secrets to a happy life.

Do something for someone else

Do something for someone else
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Wondering how to make yourself happier? Give back. Doing something for others is a great way to boost your spirits – and donating time gives a bigger boost than giving money, according to a study in the International Journal of Happiness and Development. “We did a study in which we asked people to do acts of kindness – one group did acts of kindness for others, another group did acts of kindness for the world such as picking up litter, and a group did things for themselves, like getting a massage or having a nice lunch,” says psychology professor, Dr Sonia Lyubomirsky.  “We found that only doing acts of kindness for others or the world, especially for others, made people happier.” Whether you volunteer formally or simply weed your elderly neighbour’s driveway, doing things for others gives you perspective on your own life and helps you feel you’re making a difference.

Here are some simple acts of kindness you can do in 2 minutes or less.

Call a friend

Call a friend
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Humans are pro-social beings, so having real, meaningful relationships in life is crucial to feeling happy. So make time each day to call or connect with a friend or family member. “High quality, close relationships are fundamentally important for well-being,” says researcher in positive emotions and psychophysiology, Brett Major. Plus, feeling we’ve helped out someone we love makes us feel good as well. Strong ties can also help us feel more secure when something bad happens – research shows those in tight-knit communities fare better when faced with a crisis.

Find meaning in your pursuits

Find meaning in your pursuits
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When we think, ‘once I achieve this goal, I’ll be happy,’ we’re setting ourselves up for disappointment. With success, it’s the journey, not the destination that’s fulfilling. “People don’t succeed at their goals and then become happy; being happy or emotionally flourishing first is what sets the stage for someone to become successful,” Miller says. “The research shows that when we do things that add meaning, purpose, and even pleasure to our lives, happiness is the by-product that allows us to thrive and grow in positive, proactive ways.” Even just getting caught up in an activity, called ‘flow’ in psychology or being ‘in the zone,’ makes you feel energised and fulfilled, whether you’re painting furniture, writing music, or just going through the junk drawer in the kitchen. “Accomplishing tasks and mastering skills helps people feel more confident in themselves and their abilities, which ultimately fuels well-being,” Major says.

Check out these short rituals you can do every day to boost your mental health.

Look back – and forwards – with rose-coloured glasses

Look back – and forwards – with rose-coloured glasses
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Stewing over something you regret just breeds unhappiness. Instead, some research published in Health Psychology has found that focusing on good memories, especially those from childhood, is linked to a healthier life. “In two minutes, write down every detail you can remember about a meaningful event from the day before,” suggests positive psychology expert, Michelle Gielan. “Yesterday’s high points can be today’s fuel for happiness.” This can even have an effect on our overall health: Gielan points to a 2016 study in the JAMA Network Journals that found that patients suffering from chronic pain who did this for six months were able to reduce their pain meds. Finding the good in our past can help us look to the future with hope instead of trepidation.

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Cultivate gratitude

Cultivate gratitude
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Actively cultivating a feeling of gratefulness is one of the best ways to get happier. “There’s a lot of research on trying to appreciate what’s good about your life rather than focusing on what you don’t have or what other people have and you want,” says Dr Lyubomirsky. “We have people write gratitude letters to their mother, for example, and not even share them. They write out all the things Mum has done, and just the process alone makes you really appreciate everything.” This can make you feel closer and even improve your bond – especially if you decide to share your gratitude letter. “Genuine expressions of gratitude help build new relationships or strengthen existing ones by demonstrating to others that we appreciate, understand, and care about them,” Major says.

Find out how saying thank you can have a positive effect on your well-being.

Savour the moment

Savour the moment
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In the words of Ferris Bueller from the iconic ’80s movie, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you might miss it.” Savouring positive experiences can help us fully appreciate the world around us. “We are so busy, always focusing on our to-do list, so stopping and smelling the roses is important,” Dr Lyubomirsky says. The practice of mindfulness can help you be more aware of the moment and the gifts it brings. “It’s really being attuned and paying attention, as opposed to your mind wandering all over the place,” she says.

Move

Move
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It’s no surprise that exercise is good for your body – but it can improve your outlook. “Exercise releases endorphins, which activate the body’s ‘reward system,’ basically telling the body ‘you should do this again’ by making a person feel really good, reducing stress, and improving mood,” says associate professor of psychology, Dr Acacia Parks. For an extra bonus, exercise outdoors since being in nature also benefits your mood. Even better, do so in the morning. Gielan says morning exercise is a recipe for ‘double happiness’ because your brain runs on the fuel of ‘having a win’ early in the day.

Find out how to overcome exercise excuses and improve your outlook.

Choose time over stuff

Choose time over stuff
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Due to something psychologists call hedonic adaptation, we get used to the beautiful, wonderful things we have, so after a short period of time material possessions don’t do much to make us feel happier. If you’re going to spend money, buy experiences, like travelling, which research has found leads to greater fulfilment than objects. The novelty of doing and seeing new things piques our interest and expands our perspective, helping us to better appreciate our own life.

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