Idealising your partner
“In the beginning, many new couples view their partners through rose-coloured glasses. Though a few extra compliments and some over-idealising are normal, placing your partner on a pedestal can be emotionally dangerous. As soon as your partner falls into becoming an ordinary ‘human’ (flaws and all), you will set yourself up for great disappointment. Also, a partner who is over-idealised may come to expect it and be disappointed – and even angry – if you don’t maintain the facade.” – Elaine Zukerman, author of relationship self-help books, certified life coach and psychology professor.
Sharing everything about your relationship on social media
“Your relationship is part of your personal life, so it should be staying personal and private to you. If you share every moment of your relationship on your Facebook or Instagram page, you are leaving nothing sacred between the two of you. Think about stepping it back a bit if this is one of your habits.” – Samantha Daniels, owner of the matchmaking service, Samantha’s Table, former divorce attorney, and founder of The Dating Lounge.
“Some couples play mild psychological games of being ‘unavailable’ and ‘hard-to-get’ in the beginning to instil intrigue and higher desirability. Though this may work in the short term, once the relationship is more established it can be dangerous to the future of the relationship. Learn to improve your confidence and communication by setting bottom line boundaries.” – Zukerman.