Make sure you know your letters “G”, “A” and “O”
No, we’re not talking about the basic alphabet, but rather the lesser known “hot” spots similar to the G-spot. “There is another spot named the A-spot past the G-spot, just above where the cervix is located in the vagina, and another on the opposite side below the cervix, known as the O-spot,” says Steve McGough, DHS, director of Research & Development at Women and Couples Wellness, LLC and associate professor of Clinical Sexology at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco. “If your partner learns how to properly stimulate these areas both with their fingers and through intercourse, it will take you to a completely new level of experience.”
It might sound unsexy, but putting sex on the calendar is one realistic and approachable way to ensure that it actually happens. “Frequency of sex is one of the major issues articulated between couples as a problem,” says Masini. “If one partner is a ‘numbers person’ and the other isn’t, this can make the discrepancy between how much sex one person wants and how much they’re getting, more complicated.” She recommends coming to an agreement on a range of time in which you both are willing to try and have sex – it can be once a day, once a week, once a month, but try and stick to it!
Talk about what turns you on
Sex and sexual desires are some of the top issues Martinez’s clients struggle with. “They are embarrassed and uncomfortable talking about their personal needs and desires, however, failure to discuss this often leaves one or both partners unfulfilled,” she says. “To be a partner is to be able to be open with each other, so you both should be able to express your wants and desires.” She recommends getting over the awkwardness hurdle by having a discussion with your partner about what works for you and what doesn’t. “You will both be happier and more satisfied if you know how to fulfil each other.”