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11. "You're so pretty, how are you still single?"

11. "You're so pretty, how are you still single?"
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There’s nothing single people love more than being publicly and repeatedly reminded of their single status, right? Of course not.

Add in a bewildering “but you’re so pretty” and you’re implying that not only are they sad spinsters but that there must be something else wrong with them keeping them that way, Chapman explains.

As a rule, don’t comment on someone else’s relationship status unless she brings up the topic first.

12. "You are a saint for having so many kids!"

12. "You are a saint for having so many kids!"
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This “compliment” reads both as an insult to their reproductive choices – “You have too many kids” – and to their children, implying they must be a saint to deal with them.

“It is common for people to hide judgments on life choices in compliments,” says Susan Henney, Ph.D, professor of psychology at the University of Houston-Downtown.

“We want to be polite but we also want our opinion to be heard.”

13. "You have a pretty face, you should smile more."

13. "You have a pretty face, you should smile more."
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What you’re really saying is, “Buck up, you grump. I’m in a good mood, so you should be too” which assumes that everyone is just like you or is having exactly the same kind of day as you, Henney says.

“Since it is often said from men to women, it can also be interpreted as the female not pleasing the male by being charming and agreeable at all times.”

Bottom line: You are not in charge of other people’s moods. Want someone to smile? Pay them a genuine compliment or tell them a joke.

14. "You've lost so much weight, you're not fat anymore"

14. "You've lost so much weight, you're not fat anymore"
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Weight is such a sensitive topic for so many people that you really shouldn’t give unsolicited comments about a person’s shape or size, even if you think you’re being kind, says John Moore, Ph.D, a licensed psychotherapist in Chicago.

“I’ve had clients, both women and men, cry in my office because they were told something just like this, it can be devastating,” he explains.

Not sure what to say? Follow the other person’s cues. If they want to talk about their weight loss, they will bring it up.

15. "Look at that, your girlfriend is smoking hot!"

15. "Look at that, your girlfriend is smoking hot!"
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“The second part of this sentence is ‘and what on earth is she doing with you?'” explains Backe.

Complimenting the looks of someone’s significant other never ends well because you’re obviously checking that person out and comparing them to others.

You can, however, tell your friend that they seem to have found someone really special or compliment the relationship.

16. "You look so pretty with makeup on!"

16. "You look so pretty with makeup on!"
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Do you mean to say that they don’t look attractive to you unless they paint over their natural features?

Because that is what this can come across as saying.

There’s nothing wrong with wearing makeup or complimenting someone’s makeup, just don’t imply that they’re hideous without it, says Shira Taylor Gura, well-being coach, author, and host of the podcast, Getting unSTUCK.

Source: RD.com

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