It’s OK to accept compliments, even if you don’t believe they’re true

It’s OK to accept compliments, even if you don’t believe they’re true
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“When we don’t feel good about ourselves, it’s natural to excuse people’s compliments or turn them down by talking negatively about ourselves in return,” says Dr Albers. “Instead, be open to them and practise saying, ‘Thank you,’ even if you don’t believe them at that moment. The more you start taking compliments instead of shutting them down, the better you’ll feel in the long-run.”

Here are some old-time compliments we wish could come back.

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Use social media as inspiration

Use social media as inspiration
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It can be all too easy to fall into the abyss that is #bodygoals on Instagram. To keep it positive, unfollow any accounts that constantly make you feel bad about yourself. “Only follow people who are positive and inspiring,” says Dr Albers. “Scrolling through your phone and seeing only positive messages can really shift your mood.” Unfollowing people and profiles that don’t serve you is one way to have a healthier relationship with social media.

Find out how social media can help you lose weight.

Shame and guilt don’t sustain long-term motivation

Shame and guilt don’t sustain long-term motivation
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“Those negative feelings might motivate you for a day, but what you end up doing is avoiding the things you feel bad about, so then you’re no longer making progress,” says Dr Albers. If you do catch yourself talking down about yourself, follow it up with something positive.

Here are some goal-setting tips from mental health experts.

Put a positive spin on your desire to change

Put a positive spin on your desire to change
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It’s perfectly fine to want to change things about your body. The key is to view those changes as positive instead of negative. That means instead of saying, “I need to lose weight, my thighs are so fat,” think to yourself, “I’m going to tone these thighs of mine. Focus on changing to be stronger, better and healthier,” says Dr Albers.

Don’t go shopping unless you feel great

Don’t go shopping unless you feel great
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If you’re having a ‘bad hair day,’ not even the excitement of a new outfit can make you feel good in it. Save your shopping spree for a day when you’re feeling your best, advise the experts.

Don’t miss these mindful shopping tips that can save you money (and make you happier!).

It’s OK to say “no”

It’s OK to say “no”
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“Part of building confidence is having good boundaries,” says Dr Albers. “Practice saying ‘no’ to situations that you know will make you uncomfortable or unhappy. Eventually, it’ll just roll off the tongue,” says Dr Albers.

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Source: RD.com

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