They’re good listeners
Charmers immerse and focus themselves in what the other person is saying. They aren’t busy thinking of a rebuttal or a response. They don’t interrupt people while they’re speaking, try to dominate the conversation, or tell stories to brag about themselves. They don’t use a conversation as an opportunity to give a lecture or unsolicited advice. Instead, they make people feel like they’ve been heard and focus on what they’re saying. “Everyone loves to talk about themselves,” says dating coach, Mike Goldstein. “Ask the people you meet to do so.”
They speak well
They take their time to think about each sentence, avoiding any unnecessary fillers that will make them unclear. This way, everything they say has a purpose and objective. These good communicators speak confidently, precisely and deliberately. “If you ramble on or go off track, you’re more likely to lose someone,” says relationship expert, Cherie Burbach. “But sharing a few genuine, clearly spoken words will leave an impact.” And being direct, concise and succinct makes them come across as more friendly.
They ask for advice
When people ask for your advice, it shows that they value your opinion and sincerely want to know and trust what you think. (And people typically love to talk, especially if it relates to themselves.) They hold your knowledge in high regard. Asking someone to share their area of expertise helps boost their confidence and will help them think of you more favourably, Goldstein says.