Is stress affecting your relationship?
Between the demands of parenting, financial woes and the everyday drudgery of maintaining a household, stress is unavoidable in a long-term relationship. But it doesn’t have to ruin it. Look out for these warning signs that stress could be affecting life with your nearest and dearest.
You feel like you don’t have any time to yourself
Sometimes, it’s too easy to get so caught up in your daily routine that you forget to make room for some me-time. If you find that you become overwhelmed too easily and don’t have time to do the things you want, that’s a clear sign you’re stressed. “Don’t let the weight of everyday issues overshadow the connection with your partner,” says licensed mental health counsellor Aniesa Schneberger. She suggests scheduling breaks throughout the week that are reserved just for you. Whether it’s a few minutes of sitting quietly, calling a friend, taking a walk, or anything else that you enjoy doing, be sure to do it. Not having enough me-time can get in the way of couple time.
You’re not having sex as often as you did earlier on in your relationship
An ongoing preference to go to bed early instead of enjoying time between the sheets – especially when you both used to feel more frisky more frequently – can be an indication that stress is hurting your relationship. Although it’s not uncommon for the sexual energy that was once extremely common during the romantic phase of your relationship to wane, every couple still carries with them those initial memories of romantic bonding, says Julia Breur, PhD, a licensed marriage and family therapist. Even if you’re not in the mood for sex, look for little ways to touch each other: Hug and kiss every day or hold hands when you’re watching TV on the sofa. Make date night a priority and that spark will rekindle in time.