Time to call it quits?
Ever wonder if you and your partner are built to last? Wellness expert Deepak Kashyap reveals eight often-overlooked signs your relationship is on shaky ground, along with tips on how to turn things around – before it’s too late.
You show contempt for each other
According to the Gottman Institute, where pioneering psychologists Dr John and Julie Gottman spent nearly 40 years studying marriage, showing contempt is one of the strongest signs a relationship is ending. More than just your choice of insults, contempt can be conveyed by rolling your eyes at your partner, showing disdain in the tone of your voice and mocking their concerns – any of which are enough to shake your partner’s confidence and their very sense of self. Putting it simply, the loss of mutual respect is a nearly insurmountable obstacle in any relationship.
Of course, if a relationship becomes abusive, it’s important to know how to safely leave. Here are some expert tips on how to leave an abusive relationship.
You criticise each other incessantly
When you use criticism as the primary tool to “correct” your partner’s behaviour – and ultimately their personality – it should serve as a red flag that your relationship is in trouble. How can you tell you’re being too critical? Watch for the use of generalisations in your statements, including, “You always,” “You never,” and “This always happens…” These sweeping statements could lead your partner to feel that they’re “never” good enough for you – which could be the beginning of the end for your relationship.