Keep it short
Some people ramble when they’re unsure what to say, but that confuses your point and gives you more opportunity to put your foot in your mouth, says Sokolosky. A short but heartfelt note is better than two pages of stream-of-consciousness writing.
Is there one foolproof response in any situation?
Reflective listening – repeating back what you heard the other person say – is every therapist’s secret weapon, and it works for regular folks too. “If you don’t know what to say, offer a compassionate reflection of what you hear the other person saying,” Walfish says. “This allows them to feel heard, validated and accepted, regardless of the situation.”
Couple reflective listening with a question or request for more information, and you have a foolproof response. For example, “It sounds like you’re really devastated about this. What are you feeling right now?” or “I can tell how excited you are! Tell me everything – I want all the details!”
Other great go-tos are the simplest:
I’m thinking about you.
I’m here for you.
I love you.
You’re amazing.
What to say on someone’s birthday
Birthdays are an important day to most people, and sending happy birthday wishes to a friend, relative, loved one or co-worker on their special day can really mean a lot. “In fact, remembering a birthday is a hallmark of true friendship,” Walfish says. And with modern technology like Google Calendar and Facebook reminders, there’s no reason to forget! PS: be sensitive when mentioning age. Some people are loud and proud about their number, while others prefer to keep it discreet.
Examples of birthday wishes:
As we celebrate your latest trip around the sun, I can’t help but think of the light you shine on my life. I hope this is your best birthday yet.
Don’t worry, I already know my present is your favourite. You should open the rest anyway – you know, to be polite. Have a fabulous birthday!
A great day to celebrate a great friend! Happy birthday, and cheers to many more.
Happy birthday to my favourite person in the whole world. May your day be filled with 10 times the joy you’ve provided others.
I may not be rich, but I definitely hit the jackpot with you. I’m so grateful for you and all we’ve experienced together. Have a wonderful birthday.
And that’s just the beginning of the options you can choose from when trying to figure out what to say in a birthday card or text.
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