Eldest children are leaders
Birth order has a great influence on child development, specifically because parents tend to raise each sibling differently – which can be both good and bad. But before you go blaming your parents, read on to see if it stands true for you, as there are mitigating factors.
Eldest children tend to be ambitious, driven leaders. “The firstborn gets a lot of focus and attention as there are no other children for distraction,” says child and family therapist Dr Meri Wallace, author of Birth Order Blues. “The child can get lots of teaching, and so can grow up to feel very self-confident and strong enough to be a leader.” This leadership role was noted by Alan Stewart, psychologist at University of Georgia, in his 2012 definitive analysis of birth order studies. Plus, parents often task firstborns with helping with younger siblings and chores, which develops their leadership role. “Mum will say, ‘I have to take a shower, go watch the baby for a while,’ so the firstborn knows how to be responsible and nurturing,” Wallace says. “The firstborn gets lots of education in being a leader.” Leadership also requires good manners. Here are some forgotten manners that parents should teach their children.
Older children are smarter
Much research, including a recent study from The University of Edinburgh, shows that oldest children tend to have higher IQs than subsequent children. This could be because parents provide more mental stimulation to their firstborn. “The time that parents have available to read to their first child, to explain things, is greater,” Wallace says. “Parents tend to talk to the oldest more – whether they’re home or going for a walk outside. Parents might ask ‘Why do you think the sky is blue?’ or ‘Why do you think the leaves are turning colour?’” Older children then develop more analytic and conceptual thinking skills. This could be why 21 of the first 23 NASA astronauts were firstborns. “They have larger vocabularies and learn to think like adults, which is why they are so responsible,” says Dr Linda Campbell, a psychologist at University of Georgia and a leading researcher in birth order. But the downside of this added parental attention is that firstborns feel more pressured to do well. “The oldest can become a perfectionist, and then worry that if they don’t get things perfect they’re not valuable or lovable,” Wallace says. Think you’re a smart eldest child, or think you’re smarter than your own older sibling? Try these jokes that are guaranteed to make your inner genius laugh.
Middle children are creative
“Marsha, Marsha, Marsha!” Everyone remembers Jan Brady’s classic middle-child cry on The Brady Bunch. And it does seem that the stereotype is often true. “The parents are very busy with the older child, who is either going on their first sleepover or starting high school or going on the first date,” Wallace says. “And the younger child needs so much help, so the middle child can really get lost in the shuffle.” Because everything the middle child is doing the eldest child has done before, they may feel lost. “The middle child doesn’t have a clear identity,” Wallace says. Even so, the constant companionship of siblings could be the reason middle children are less likely to be diagnosed with emotional disorders, according to a 2013 study from Spain. And having to find their own niche can often lead the middle child to branch out into other areas and become more creative, without the parental expectations eldest children face. “The middle child finds interesting ways to get attention, so you often get a middle child who’s an artist or a jokester,” Wallace says. If you’re a middle child and think you have middle child syndrome, think again, middle children have many hidden powers.