The 36 questions that can make you fall in love with anyone

Can you really fall in love with anyone?

In a 1997 SUNY Stony Brook study, psychologist Arthur Aron explored whether intimacy between two perfect strangers could be accelerated by having them ask each other the 36 personal questions below.

Since Dr. Aron created the quiz, he’s even seen it rekindle the romance in long-term relationships. “When you’re first in a romantic relationship, there’s an intense excitement, but then you grow used to each other,” Dr. Aron told Berkeley News. “If you do something new and challenging, that reminds you of how exciting it can be with your partner, it makes your relationship better.”

These 36 questions that lead to love take about 45 minutes to complete, with each becoming increasingly personal and intense. Dr. Aron and his wife Elaine, a psychologist who also studies love and relationships, have also used the quiz to bond with couple friends (platonically) over dinner dates.

Question 1

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

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Question 2

Would you like to be famous? In what way?

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Question 3

Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

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Question 4

What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

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Question 5

When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

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Question 6

If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

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