Preparing your mind during the day can shape your dreams at night.
In order to make a particular person, experience, or solution to a problem appear in your dream, you’ll want to focus your mind on that topic in the moments before you fall asleep. If the theme lends itself toward a physical memento you can place on your nightstand, all the better. “If it’s a personal problem, it might be (a photo of) the person you have the conflict with,” Dr Deidre Barrett, author of The Committee of Sleep and assistant clinical professor of psychology at Harvard Medical School, suggests. “If you’re an artist, it might be a blank canvas. If you’re a scientist, the device you’re working on that’s half assembled or a mathematical proof you’ve been writing through versions of.”
As Dr Sandy P. Marantz, a licensed clinical social worker notes, the themes that appear most often in your dreams are the ones that appear most often in your life. Dreams “tend to repeat unresolved issues until they are mastered by the dreamer. As well, they can represent wishes and desires that we harbour,” she explains. With that said, if there’s a specific person, problem, or idea you’d like to explore more often in your dreams, make an effort to spend more time with it during your waking hours.
Now that you’ve got a physical reminder and have tried to spend more time with the object of your ideal dreams during your waking hours, it’s time to settle into bed. Make sure you hit the sack early enough to get ample sleep time, so you wake up refreshed. Now, focus your mind on whatever it is you’d like to dream about.
To focus your thinking even more, you should actively cultivate a positive mindset. “Make a gratitude list in order to have a gratitude attitude at bedtime,” says Marantz, and “think about having sweet dreams.”
This is important when it comes to controlling your dream while you’re having it – and being in a state of lucid dreaming. “By asking yourself the question, ‘Am I dreaming?’ throughout your day, you will begin to ask the same question while in a dream,” Dylan Tuccillo, Jared Zeizel and Thomas Peisel, authors of A Field to Lucid Dreaming have suggested. “Your suspicion of reality will echo into your sleep, bouncing around your mind until – voilà! – you find yourself within the mecca of your own psyche.”
When you wake up, wake slowly, letting your dreams linger. Marantz says that quiet morning reflection, followed by a writing session can help with dream recall. Congratulations – you’re dreaming and you know it! Go ahead and create whatever type of dream world you please.
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