48 simple ways to improve your sex life

Little did you know that a pair of kicks had the potential to work wonders on your sex life. A 2013 study, published the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, found that high heels are not only physically sexy, but they also may work a woman’s pelvic-floor muscles – the area that helps keep the vagina toned! Who knew! Carrie Bradshaw was certainly onto something…

Your daily cup of coffee is surprisingly healthy, and it might do more than wake you up and help you stay on track with your to-do list. It might also help increase your libido. In fact, one study published in the journal Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior, found that caffeine stimulates the area of the brain responsible for regulating arousal. Time to fill up your cup!

Sometimes just the anticipation and excitement of not knowing what will happen can really amp things up, says McGough. “First, do a little homework: Each partner thinks of things that might be exciting to do to the other partner if he or she were blindfolded. Do searches online for exciting ideas – just don’t tell each other what your plans are,” he says. “Then, the morning you’re planning to have your new ‘game,’ you flip a coin to decide who will wear it.” Apply a soft cloth (or go all out and get a blindfold) to the partner who agrees to be blindfolded and have the other partner proceed with their planned “homework.”

“Edging orgasms involve stimulating one’s self to the threshold of spasm, and then releasing, but not getting to the point of full body orgasm,” explains Kolbe. “By edging orgasms, we can sustain the sexual act for as long as we like and cultivate the many associated physical, mental and spiritual benefits.” Edging orgasms is also known as having ‘valley’ orgasms – waves of neuromuscular euphoria occupying the genital area and spreading sexual energy into the core and extremities of the body.

While it might soothe you and your partner to sleep, Italian researchers found that it may lower your chances of having sex. More specifically, the study found that couples who had television sets in their bedroom had half as much sex as those who didn’t – or kept their TV to the living room only. We suppose it makes sense that if there’s no television in the room, you’ll have to be each other’s entertainment!

Research suggests that this Peru-sourced plant picked from the ground may lead to improved sexual function. One study published in the journal Evidence-Based Complementary and Alternative Medicine (eCAM) supports other perks of the plant, including its ability to balance hormone levels, boost fertility in both men and women and improve memory and focus.

Share with each other your sexual desires and fantasies. “Take turns fulfilling each other’s personal needs, and you have created an openness and balance in the relationship that was not there before,” says Martinez. “Doing this demonstrates your willingness to try things in order to please your partner, and it makes them want to do the same for you in return.” Knowing that you are making your partner so fulfilled can be satisfying in and of itself, and knowing that a need and desire of your own is going to be fulfilled, can be arousing to you in general, she adds.

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“Sometimes, even exercise and stress reduction many not be enough to put the spark back in a man’s sex drive,” explains S. Adam Ramin, MD, urologic surgeon. “When this is the case, an underlying medical condition could be to blame.” He recommends seeking out the help of an experienced and highly-trained urologist who can work with your partner to treat whatever is affecting a man’s sexual function. “Plenty of men experience conditions that can affect their libido and there is no shame in seeking treatment so that you can get back to the sex life you want.”

It might sound simple, but simply flashing a grin can add some spark back into your sex life. “Smiles communicate physical health, mental wellbeing, love of life, being present in the moment and being happy inside our bodies,” says Kolbe. “Smiling is sexy, smiling is beautiful, smiling makes us attractive.” So go ahead, and greet your significant other with an ear-to-ear grin.

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Source: RD.com