Is your spouse micro-cheating? Here’s what that is and how to know

There are plenty of reasons you need the passcode to your partner’s phone –­ like using it to look something up or answering the phone when their mum calls, Madden says. People who don’t have anything to hide won’t have an issue sharing their unlock code.

This is definitely a thing that more and more couples fight about these days with everyone on social media. Liking and commenting on another person’s social media posts isn’t a definitive sign your partner is cheating but it can give you a lot of clues, Madden says. For instance, if your husband is liking all the bikini pics of the woman next door or your wife comments on every post her high school crush makes, it’s evidence they are spending a lot of time thinking about that person in a flirty way. Likes and comments often lead to private messages, she adds. Many people say that there were early warning signs on social media of cheating.

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Any time someone is lying, there’s a problem, Dr Patel-Dunn says. So if you notice that your spouse is constantly texting with someone whose name you don’t recognise, they’re either hiding their relationship with that person from you or they’ve saved someone you do know under a false name – often a name of the opposite gender, to throw off suspicion.

Some people think, either due to low self-esteem or an overestimation of their willpower, that cheating could never possibly be a temptation for them. “This is dangerous. Because he thinks he would never cheat, he feels free to get really close to the edge,” Madden says. “Then he falls off the cliff taking his marriage and your heart with him.”

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When your partner is getting their romantic and sexual needs met through another person, they naturally turn less to you, Dr Patel-Dunn says. This often manifests as a declining sex life and much less physical and emotional intimacy between you.”

“The best way to counteract and prevent micro-cheating is to work on strengthening your relationship,” Madden says. “Lean into the relationship, pay more attention to your partner, plan date nights. Because here is the truth: many people are tempted to cheat because they don’t feel appreciated or loved at home.”

Oftentimes micro-cheating highlights what is lacking in your relationship, Dr Patel-Dunn says. “One or both partners may be surprised to realise micro-cheating is happening because it starts on a very subconscious level,” she says. “This is a real opportunity for introspection and communication. You need to talk about it and get it out in the open.”

These conversations can be very difficult to have, particularly if your spouse is in denial about their micro-cheating, Dr Patel-Dunn says. In this case, it’s time to get marriage counselling immediately, before micro-cheating turns into something more devastating. “If both partners are committed to fixing the underlying issues, this type of emotional honesty can strengthen your relationship and fortify you against micro-cheating in the future.”

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Source: RD.com